March 6, 2017
In one of the days in past, I had conversation with a person who had suffered of pain due to wrong choices one made in life in which the person got into divorce. The cause of person’s pain was not going into divorce, but rather, on the decision one originally made, which was having marriage with wrong person. Though one already knew that one was into wrong person, the pain comes as result of such wrong decision that arose due to the failure originally anticipated.
Most people got into disappointment and such disappointment make them stay in the world of pains as they got into divorce and such break up has its own pain to deliver. They suffer with such kinds of pain. While this person enjoyed such pain since it was not the divorce matter that made such person into such state of pain, but rather the original decision of getting into marriage that make such person to live and stay in the world of pain. This is one drama of life.
While such theatrical drama of human life is going on, one wonders on the other scenario of human life in which people enter city of pain as they got into divorce since they lose their loved ones, they decide to break up due to those circumstances that visit their given life as they are beyond their control and they cannot stand to overcome those mistakes or failure they commit and they end up in deciding into divorce.
In this case, it is not the divorce matter that make them calmed since it is not their primal intention to go into divorce due to the fact that they assumed they have contracted their marriage with right person, but as the process of time goes on, things got into wrong direction, and they start to suffer as result of such failures do make them stay in the world of pain, as they got into divorce, though it is painful, they are also relieved from the pain that comes as result of such failures in life.
This would be worse when both kinds of pains come to happen in one person’s life due to the fact that such kinds of peoples’ personal experience could tell many things. Though there could be varied range of experience of peoples life in everywhere, such kinds of people do tell many things since they are heard of getting into divorce not only for one time, but for multiples and they keep going towards looking for their perfect match in life or they could stop looking any kinds of partner in life too.
In both scenarios of life, pain has different color in which it was not the original decision that make them suffer or got into pain since in the first scenario, it was the start up decision of getting into marriage that made such person to suffer where as in the second scenario is the divorce matter that make such person to suffer since one would love to stay in the world of marriage till the rest of one’s life to the person whom one went to the city of marriage too.
Most people refer pain as unpleasant felling that people suffer on their physical body as the dictionary defines it Pain is a distressing feeling often caused by intense or damaging stimuli, such as stubbing a toe, burning a finger, putting alcohol on a cut, or bumping the funny bone. Because it is a complex, subjective phenomenon, defining pain has been a challenge. Pain is an unpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage, or described in terms of such damage. In medical diagnosis, pain is regarded as a symptom of an underlying condition.
However, pain according to the above mentioned peoples’ experience has something to do with their emotional state of being in which it has also emotional components that require different perspective and remedy, since pain has something that is connected to emotional state of being that require to perceive it in its own nature and character. In this case, pain is state of being that can be converted into state of joy thru different mechanism which people employ that make them stay out from such given state of being since it can be overcome and removed.
In order to remove the physical pain which people suffer due to any kinds of unpleasant matter has affect their given body, people take an analgesic or painkiller, which is any member of the group of drugs used to achieve analgesia, relief from pain. They remove the pain, but they do not remove the root cause of the pain. This is one of the diagnostic which people make use of in order to remove such unpleasant feelings that affect our body.
However, when people suffer the kind of emotional pain, it is not any kind of pain killer that even have an impact to make them relieve such emotional pain in which such kinds of pain needs emotional pain killers. In this case, people go into movies, theater places, religious places, psychiatrist, and other entertaining places where as other people go into drugs, alcoholic places so that they could remove the kinds of pain they suffer in their given life. This is one of the dramatic human activities that is going in every land and place by the people who suffer such kinds of pain.
According to those people experience, which is the cross-cross type and kind, when one person suffers out of wrong decision one makes to lead the right way of life, the other person suffers one made the right decision to lead the right way of life but suffer due to wrongs and failures one commit in the process of life; such people vary on the color of pain but they live in the city of pains since they have pains out of wrongs and failures they commit in life.
In both scenarios of life, such kinds of pains cannot be removed by those remedies which could put them into chaos and frustration such as revenge or other related mechanism, but rather, with further contemplation and mediation on life that can put them lead a life to better status and state of being, which are dependent upon individuals maturity and understanding and perceptions of life. Life has no specific recipe!!