May 10, 2016
A therapist has a theory that couples who make love once a day are the happiest. So he tests it at a seminar by asking those assembled, “How many people here make love once a day?” Half the people raise their hands, each of them grinning widely. “Once a week?” A third of the audience members raise their hands, their grins a bit less vibrant. “Once a month?” A few hands tepidly go up. Then he asks, “OK, how about once a year?”
One man in the back jumps up and down, jubilantly waving his hands. The therapist is shocked—this disproves his theory. “If you make love only once a year,” he asks, “why are you so happy?”
The man yells, “Today’s the day”.
Great philosophers, religious leaders, writers and thinkers throughout human history have searched for meaning and purpose for life due to keen desire they have for life and quest for meaning to life in which they seek happiness and the mystery of happiness in their own thought with their own thinking and experiences of life. Such people have come up with their own given theory and thinking to define happiness in their own life time and century.
One could make a pause, is happiness one thousand years ago same as what is in today? Is the method that makes people happy in thousand years is similar to what we think and do in today? Is happiness an act that change thru time as the technological or human advancement goes forward? Why? What make people happy? What are the components of happiness? Is the individual happy state of being equal to societal well being and happiness? Why?
Many other related inquiries can be raised since the idea of happiness is such mysterious subject in which most people do not escape from mere judgments and speculations on what it means by as they could confuse temporal joy with lasting happy state of being in the process of life, but many great thinkers define and tested it, they have a definition contrary to what most ordinary people think and feel due to the fact that happiness is mostly related to the nature of human reality though science is in its infant stage to tell the whole mystery of human reality in its complete sense due to its own inadequacy.
The light of thousand candles can be source from the single match lilting to one candle in which such candle can spread its light to many million candles too in due course of time, and this makes happiness is contagious social and human reality that can be shared by others, such given reality is something that is come by the process of life and with cumulative effect of various actions and reactions of life do result at one point of life in human history. Hence, it is connected and related with many other human elements and undertakings since one affects the other.
This is quite interesting idea to reflect on since most people live based on making their given calculation in order to justify their given claim on what they have obtained happiness in their process of life, but there are other factors that should be considered as well. The assumption behind making individuals and societies happy, such listings that are made at international level which lead to an understanding that happiness is something that can change every year in a specific time span set that require quite something to contemplate further since it is formidable to think and believe that happiness is like a world cup, which can be chosen and dictated by few core people, that goes from one nation to another in certain given period of time.
Dictionary defines happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Happy mental states may also reflect judgement by a person about their overall well-being. Accordingly, happiness is reality that exists between state of contentment and intense joy. Contentment is in most cases difficult to achieve it when people live in materialistic world and live in state of materialism. And scientific research has shown that prosperity, health, and physical attractiveness are only minimally related to one’s overall happiness.
Aristotle say, happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence. Franklin D Roosevelt said, happiness is not the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative efforts. Mahatma Gandhi said, happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
Based on such great people advise, happiness is reality of life which help the purpose and meaning of existence to be achieved in life as what people say, think and do are in harmony, that do eventually lead in organizing and systematizing people’s daily activities and lives so that they can be achieving their daily plans in life towards the accomplishment of their general and overall purpose and goals of life, whose sole aim is not in collecting money and material possessions, but achieve mental state of well being and pleasant emotions.
The quest for true happiness is but a decision and a choice. Such quest for happiness is not something that can be achieved by watching a movie, drinking coca cola or beer, listening to music, or whatever activities people do especially in their leisure time, though they are helpful, but by listening and meditating the purpose of life and existence. This is a reality that can be derived by the combination and harmonization of what people do in their regular routines and leisure times since both are essentially useful and necessary.
Every 24 hour has meaning and purpose, what could possibly vary between people is on how they utilize and spend their given 24 hours in terms of thinking and contemplating, talking and doing, setting visions and plans in their life and other related human activities and people differ one from the other accordingly. There are people who live by the norm in conventional ways and as there are people who live outside the norm, and both kinds of people live in the 24 hours a day realm but they differ in their given thinking and actions. The states of happiness they claim also differ since what they think, do, say and visualize matter in their given undertaking.