Meetings Vs Diaper

August 31, 2015

This is the story of four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was asked to do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. Consequently, it wound up that Nobody told Anybody, so Everybody blamed Somebody.

The same is true in work places where meetings are organized and performed in unorganized and unplanned way since meeting is one of the tools that help people operate and activate their given undertaking at any given work place in expeditious manner. When such meetings are organized and arranged in order to produce useful fruits, they should be organized and well planned before they are done. Meetings are far beyond chairs, tables and peoples since they are organize with the intention of bearing fruits that give perspectives and directions to the future by resolving and remedying problems and difficulties of past and present.

I had a conversation in this past weekend about the social and political condition of this county in a time when politician hold their regular congressional meeting about the affairs and progress of this country. And I asked the person, what is their main propose of such gathering and he replied, they probably need to change their diapers. This is quite funny and interesting remark one ever heard since even if it is funny and it has something to deliver for many reasons.

Why do people meet? What is the purpose and motive behind meetings? When shall people meet? One could ask various queries on such given aspect since it is important to know basic reasons why people meet. Otherwise when the motive off such meetings are known in a way that their decision is known ahead and they have also other hidden agenda, it is futile to have them since is just waste of time, energy and resources. When people know the results of any given meeting before it is due, on what such meetings are going to deliver, such meetings are not only useless but also are more of game and joke.

meeting is generally defined as a gathering of two or more people that has been convened for the purpose of achieving a common goal through verbal interaction, such as sharing information and research agreements.

Researchers in this aspect claim that there are three types of meetings. A one-time meeting is the most common meeting type and covers events that are self-contained. While they may repeat often, the individual meeting is the entirety of the event. This can include a 2006 conference. The 2007 version of the conference is a stand-alone meeting event.

recurring meeting is a meeting that recurs periodically, such as an every Monday staff meeting from 9:00AM to 9:30 AM. The meeting organizer wants the participants to be at the meeting on a constant and repetitive basis. A recurring meeting can be ongoing, such as a weekly team meeting, or have an end date, such as a 5-week training meeting, held every Friday afternoon.

series meeting is like a recurring meeting, but the details differ from meeting to meeting. One example of a series meeting is a monthly “lunch and learn” event at a company, church, club or organization. The placeholder is the same, but the agenda and topics to be covered vary. This is more of a recurring meeting with the details to be determined

There are good meetings and there are bad meetings. Bad meetings drone on forever, people never seem to get to the point, and people leave wondering why people were even present. However effective ones leave people motivated and energized and feeling that people really accomplish something.

So what makes a meeting effective? This really boils down to three things. They achieve the meeting’s objective; they take up a minimum amount of time; they leave participants feeling that a sensible process has been followed.

An effective meeting serves a useful purpose. This means that it achieves a desired outcome. For a meeting to meet this outcome, or objective, people should have to be clear on, do people want a decision? Do people want to generate ideas? Are people getting status reports? Are people communicating something? Are people making plans?

In order to run and hold effective meetings, experts in the field advise the following key points that should be addressed in every meeting since they are important and useful tool to have effective meeting. These are:

Don’t Meet: Avoid a meeting if the same information could be covered in a memo, e-mail or brief report. One of the keys to having more effective meetings is differentiating between the need for one-way information dissemination and two-way information sharing.

Set Objectives for the Meeting: One benefit of setting objectives for the meeting is to help you plan the meeting. The more concrete your meeting objectives, the more focused your agenda will be. A second important benefit of having specific objectives for each meeting is that you have a concrete measure against which you can evaluate that meeting.

Provide an Agenda Beforehand: Provide all participants with an agenda before the meeting starts. Your agenda needs to include a brief description of the meeting objectives, a list of the topics to be covered and a list stating who will address each topic and for how long. When you send the agenda, you should include the time, date and location of the meeting and any background information participants will need to know to hold an informed discussion on the meeting topic.

Assign Meeting Preparation: Give all participants something to prepare for the meeting, and that meeting will take on a new significance to each group member. For problem-solving meetings, have the group read the background information necessary to get down to business in the meeting. Ask each group member to think of one possible solution to the problem to get everyone thinking about the meeting topic.

Assign Action Items :Don’t finish any discussion in the meeting without deciding how to act on it. Listen for key comments that flag potential action items and don’t let them pass by without addressing them during your meeting.

Examine Your Meeting Process: Assign the last few minutes of every meeting as time to review the following questions: What worked well in this meeting? What can we do to improve our next meeting? Every participant should briefly provide a point-form answer to these questions. Answers to the second question should be phrased in the form of a suggested action. Remember – don’t leave the meeting without assessing what took place and making a plan to improve the next meeting.

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Optimism— Pessimism—Realistic

August 28, 2015

Life in this world is mainly concerned with thought and such thoughts give birth to belief upon the magnitude and potency of given claims people do since it is thought that shape the human world and reality in the course of history of this world. In this case, people are hope seeking and faith oriented in one aspect and they are also despaired and hopeless in another aspect since they are bound by thinking or any given ideology which they practice in life. Amongst such ideology, the practice and thinking of the prophets is one aspect which give both hopeful picture and who also deliver apocalyptic view for life and about this world.

When such Prophets in human history arose in past, they face all kinds of tribulations due to the fear factor, ignorance aspect and envy and jealousy aspects of others which complicate their lives and stay on the earth. Even if such prophets in past were surrounded with threats and were encircled of such dangers to their lives, they have accomplished certain things and they have collected many kinds of followers to their given claim in the history of humankind.

Society is in most cases accustomed to certain tradition and culture which like to be in and such given prophets could tell that their given practice is not useful attachment to the way of life society practices and thus society go against to such prophets advise and claim since the first thing they ask, who are you to tell us this or that in which personality is the first agenda. Prophets are in most cases humble individuals who do not have any given social status in the society.

Afterwards, when what such given prophets deliver becomes truthful, society here lives in dilemma since it is not possible to argue with the truth. And then comes is the fear factor since what the prophets claim could be truthful. In this case, fear manipulates that given society since they do not know that given truthful claim deliver since truth always asks anyone to detach from the attachment society already get.

Religious and political leaders—ego, fear, ignorance, envy and jealousy, and selfish desires—are the foremost enemy of such prophets since such public figures are the ones who do all kind of sabotage and conspiracies on their lives. Society has no clue of what such prophets deliver and due to such ignorant part of the respective society such given prophets reside, the public reflects all kinds of bad thinking and doing against such prophets by following what religious and political leaders of that given society in which the first people who negate and reject any given prophets claim are such leaders due to the fear and ignorance factor on what such given prophets claim.

And in fact, when there are people who could realize that such figures of human kind have profound stations and reality, society rejects their given claim, envy and jealousy become the major actor of human drama since people are naturally jealous when they see and face other people who excel in station or in any given undertaking such given prophets deliver. Historically, this is already manifested and reflected in the history of all prophets in the past and what could vary be the type of society one lives and how such envy and jealousy are manifested and reflected.

While one review on what such prophets deliver, they give both optimistic and pessimistic way of life and thinking to this world even if they just preach faith and hope along with their respective promise which they deliver and they also claim that the world is bright when they are followed and listened otherwise the world is dark without their given words and thinking. When the world listens to them, they are optimist but when they are not listened, they are pessimistic about such world. This sounds also self oriented phenomena.

Life in this world is composed of different ingredients of life and amongst such ingredients, the words of the prophets is one of the aspects of the human life and the human affairs of life. This means that they are important but they are not the life and death for life in this world since prophecy is one of the controversial subject matter and aspect of human life and existence in this world since accuracy and precision in telling the future events and destiny of the word to date has failed except every time people attempt to precisely predict to what the fate of this world should be and where is heading and trying to go.

To the other side of the coin, the words of such prophets could be proven wrong in due course of time by the process of time. And people start deviating from such given way of life that is already underway by such given prophets thinking and perception of life. And whatever scholarly and expertise trial and definition and interpretation are given, this world has proven out to this date that there is nothing infallible. Bearing this in mind, there are individuals and professionals who try to deliver their own views in relation to people’s deviation from whatever ideological way of life are established based on words of such given prophets in way that they are infallible and those who deviate are wrong.

This is one of the erroneous deductions and perceptions such people acquire thru ages and centuries since this one of the facts that is going on in this world. Hence, people deviate that such ways of life are established based on such given prophets thinking and ideologies are even wrong in due course of time. Thus, they go away from such given way and ideologies of life and establish their own style and accent in life. And there is nothing wrong by doing this.The drama of infallibility cannot be acceptable by many people since many people think that life is process and it cannot be perfect and compete at any given point. Hence, people happen to be optimist or pessimist about life base on their given experience of life.

According to an article on Pick the Brain Web magazine, published on July 9, 2013, by Stephen Guise, the following is an interesting read on the subject of Optimism and Pessimism, distinguishing differences between optimists and pessimists.

  1. Optimists Believe They Are In Control

Optimists believe they can shape their future. They see no reason why tomorrow can’t be better than today was, and they’re right. Circumstances and prior failures don’t matter as much to an optimist. An optimist’s worldview is such that life improvement is expected. This loops and strengthens itself over time through positive reinforcement, especially with the right strategies.

But pessimists often feel no sense of control over their lives. If they believed they had control, they wouldn’t be pessimists, because that would mean that they choose negative outcomes. Quite often, pessimists base their gloomy expectations on prior experiences.

  1. Optimists Are Forward-Looking

Yesterday is filed away as a joyful or educational experience in the mind of an optimist. There is no day like the present, and hey, tomorrow is looking pretty good too. Have you thought about this? The present moment is completely neutral. Anything (good or bad) can happen from this moment on. So the optimist sees this neutrality as an opportunity to make something good happen. Another optimist skill is connecting how today’s positive actions almost guarantees a better future.

Pessimists are not forward-looking in general. Yes, they look ahead and see a bleak future, but they often base it on the past, where they like to hang out and drink slurpees. Do you know of any super successful and happy people who see their future as bleak? If so, it’s probably because of some recent news or traumatic event, not their past.

3. Optimists Are Confident In Themselves

Confidence is a determining factor for optimism and pessimism. Optimists believe they can overcome whatever life throws at them and continue on their way. Pessimists don’t believe this, and so are “victims” of circumstance.

If you lack confidence, you might be a pessimist for the simple reason that you don’t believe you can do it. The best way to fix this problem is to learn the skills you need in order to succeed. Change your definition of success to progress and focus on what you can succeed with now.

4. Optimists See Possibility. Pessimists See Problems.

The positive-minded person says, “What should I do next? There are so many exciting options!” The negative-minded person says, “What should I do next? I’ve got so many problems to deal with!”

Problems are a part of life. I’ve found it best to ignore the ones you can’t do anything about. A pessimist can see an optimist with the same problems and think, “well, if they had my issues, they wouldn’t be so peppy!” It’s not true. People with all sorts of problems cope with them and still move their lives in a positive direction.

  1. Optimists Have Better, But Shorter Lives

Optimism produces a better life of course… but shorter!? Yes, according to a recent study.

“Pessimism about the future may encourage people to live more carefully, taking health and safety precautions.” Before you pronounce optimism dead, take a closer look at how they reached this conclusion…

Accordingly, people are correct to obtain pessimistic and optimistic views and approaches in life due to firm faith they have towards the truth in which both feelings and thinking germinate as result of failures and successes this world has undergone in which people become pessimist due to truthful grounds and as result of such failures and harsh criticism such given world has been delivered, there are also people who become optimism out of faith and conviction they have for life and future and wish to the good of the future of the world. Both are essentially useful. In other worlds, people should be realistic in life than go with blind faith and hope to be optimist and as well as there is firm conviction which people are determined to change darkness into light as well as of being optimistic. The middle way—Realistic—is always safe and secure since both are correct and it is unwise to be at one extreme in life.

Scandal—Politics Vs Religion

August 27, 2015

A teacher was teaching her second grade class about the government, so for homework that one day, she told her students to ask their parents what the government is.

When a boy got home that day, he went up to his dad and asked what the government was.

His dad thought for a while and answered, ”Look at it this way: I’m the president, your mom is Congress, your maid is the work force, you are the people and your baby brother is the future.”

”I still don’t get it” responded the boy.

”Why don’t you sleep on it then? Maybe you’ll understand it better,” said the dad.

”Okay then…good night” said the boy went off to bed. In the middle of the night, the boy was awakened by his baby brother’s crying. He went to his baby brother’s crib and found that his baby brother had taken a crap in his diaper. So the boy went to his parent’s room to get help. When he got to his parent’s bedroom, he looked through the keyhole to check if his parents were asleep. Through the keyhole he saw his mom loudly snoring, but his dad wasn’t there. So he went to the maid’s room. When he looked through the maid’s room keyhole, he saw his dad having sex with his maid. The boy was surprised, but then he just realized something and thinks aloud, ”OH!! Now I understand the government! The President is screwing the work force, Congress is fast asleep, nobody cares about the people, and the future is full of s**t!”

A sex scandal is an action or event regarded as morally or legally wrong and causing general public outrage, involving allegations or information about possibly-immoral sexual activities being made public. Sex scandals are often associated with sexual affairs of film stars, politicians, famous athletes or others in the public eye, and become scandals largely because of the prominence of the person involved, perceptions of hypocrisy on their part, or the non-normative or non-consensual nature of their sexuality. A scandal may be based on reality, the product of false allegations, or a mixture of both.

Sex scandals involving politicians often become political scandals, particularly when there is an attempt at a cover-up, or suspicions of illegality. While some commentators see sex scandals as irrelevant to politics, particularly where “professional performance [does] not seem to be impaired”, views them as not just “great fun”, but a reminder “that we should think twice before we cede more power to these clowns.

Over the centuries, many sex scandals have involved incumbent United States federal elected politicians, as well as persons appointed with the consent of the U.S. Senate. Sometimes the officials have denied the accusations, or have apologized, or have lost their office in consequence of the scandal (e.g. by resigning or being defeated or deciding not to run again). There is some emphasis on sex scandals since the mid-1970s, because before then the media was less inclined to cover these matters. Additionally, outing people because of perceptions that their political positions are anti-gay has become increasingly common since 1989. More generally, any perceived inconsistency between personal conduct and policy positions makes a politician’s sex life more likely to become publicized. There are listed people, either the scandal, or the behavior which gave rise to it, occurred while they were occupying their high federal offices.

This is quite interesting and bit scary when any given community or society could be in such situation of life and it is possible to tell that what kind of look such given society could have when members of its institutions get corrupt and dwell on personal desire and interest than have community or society concern since there are such types of leaders in every community or society. Sex scandals cause chaos in community life since families are broken down and such breaking down of such given families cause perplexity and perilous psychological stress on their given children which do have its own consequences on the community or social life which they claim are building.

When such scandal become norm, the value making of such societies is distorted and they need to have an overhaul and they have to make moral revivalism in their values and thinking even if they consider sex given type of having sex as normal activity of life. Sex is necessary human activity, but it has its own fashion, and it should be done with means of establishing law and order, meaning, when people are married, they should not see other people outside their given marriage. Otherwise, there is no point of having their marriage since they are doing it outside it and they are committing double sin and crime, one is on their family and second is on their given political or religious responsibility which they shoulder.

When any given ordinary individual is found in having sex with women in one’s own way as far as  it is done on voluntarily basis, there is no such scandal since one is ordinary and not even married, unless one is committing rape or related; where as political and religious leaders are found in such condition and way of life, they put damage and harm to the entire society since leadership is not about one given person and related family, but it is about the well being of entire society and community. One wonders as such kinds of sex scandals, although Italian government, Catholic priests, Protestant preachers, and other few governments and religious institutions are mentioned on the Medias since they are caught, but as people go further with more close up and watch dog is done, it is possible to tell such messy situations that could exist in every palace and church and worship places besides the regular activity they undergo.

Rolling out Web Magazine published the following article, in which an excerpt is taken in here. Religious leaders have an obligation to teach and serve as great moral examples to their congregations and communities. But too often, some religious leaders have abused their position by participating in amoral acts without seeking help for their indiscretions. In turn, their secrets tend to destroy the lives of their victims and it causes their followers to also experience uncertainty and confusion. Rolling out has compiled a list of 15 religious leaders who were caught in a sex scandal. During the time of Pope John Paul, the Catholic Church organized conference on sex scandal, in which the pope has summoned U.S. cardinals and American church leaders to Rome for a special meeting to discuss the pedophilia crisis that has rocked the Church.

Most African political leaders are widely mentioned of sexual lust and sex scandals due to the polygamous cultural and social setting they have, this could be considered as norm. However whatever immoral and unacceptable behaviors is cannot be considered as legitimate and should not be treated as norm since it affects social dynamics and disturbs the balance and equilibrium of social dynamic and thinking.

The Space between 1 and One!?

August 26, 2015

One was reading an interesting comment of someone while participating in one of the web discussion in which the person complains on what life delivers even if he said and wrote, I am rich, handsome and successful in life, but I could not get the right woman for life. This is as one supposes what many people could share as they think of their own in such standards and way of life and such types of people could be heard of such complaints as one meet them in another arena of life since they think that these are the very criterion for successful life and means of having perfect match for their life partner in life as the women part do same too. But, the reality could speak different language.

In the first place, the person’s criterion is materialistic approach of life and thus, one should revise one’s standard for life since such woman whom this person think should be highly materialistic due to the fact that the successes and points of attraction the person deliver are also materialistic ones. And in the second place, when such standards are set, the market or the availability should also be analyzed realistically since one should be aware of the type of personality and individuality one has and the type of people whom one seeks for life so that the right company can be integrated and harmonized. The third is besides what that given person’s claim, the person should breath deep inside and look in to oneself if one is looking for such partner, what is missing in one’ side since those criterion the person put might not be enough for such life.

Life cannot be perfect and complete since this world is also imperfect and incomplete. Expecting such thing to happen in life put one’s reality in conflict and contradiction. What could be required in order to fill such gap and space life delivers in one’s own mechanism and ways to make life go simple and smooth. When people assume that they are achieved, the get complicated and ego and pride surrounds them and they create all kinds of conflict with life, nature and other people too. When people think they are achieved, they live in city which they do not even realize and recognize, but others who critically observe them can only understand and tell. One does not like to live in such city.

In this case, desire and ambitions are the one that consume most people life and they create some sort of fantasy and illusion which could deliver some sort of dissatisfaction and disappointments in life as people lose what they want to get in life.  In such given process of life they create some sort of personality and identity crisis with their own thinking and behavior along with their given characters, which most claim personality and individuality. Here they want to be what they are not, and they could fall in wrong trap, they enter in wrong city and they speak with language which they do not even understand and none understands them and listen to them since they created their own egoistic island that put them to crisis.

The personality and individuality of every person are characterized and shaped by four ingredients of the human affairs of one’s life. The first one is what the person thinks as who one is; the second one is who the person objectively and really is; the third is how other people perceive such person as who the person is and the fourth is how the person perceives other people. In such given human affairs of one’s life, people shape their personality and individuality along with their given objective identity based on perceptions and interpretations they have obtained out of any given interaction with others and surrounding environment  by the side of any given understanding one delivers regarding people and their own selves in life.

In such given undertaking, as one can give as good example especially in the former way of life or people whom one used to interact in past, such people had confusions between such affairs of man to woman thing, as per an experience of one’s life in which to be religious is confused with to be spiritual in which such people are highly materialistic and they try to justify their given materialistic claim with their respective religious views under the cover of spirituality in which in that given interaction and communication of one’s life, one was never into any woman and is not even interested with anyone of them even if whatever achievement and greatness they have in life, even if one is not achieved like that person who commented on the web, such life is beyond such given factor and way of thinking.

One believes and thinks that it is better not to share one’s life goals and purposes with those people who rob and take away one’s private and personal joy that dwell in one’s own home, if any, due to the fact that whatever personality and achievement and glory they have on this objective world. There are quite few things that are granted by nature along with will choices and efforts individual make in life which are precious and noble and they cannot be obtained out of physical and material and outward appearances and comforts of such life.

And it is not possible to be happy in life by doing sabotages and conspiracies on other people behind since such things are easily detected as where they come from due to their given natures and  characters of such ins and outs of life  such bad thinking and cat has their own given time which people pay since thinking and doing bad on other people has its own good time which people pay back and life costs very much whoever the person is since this is one of the natural law and happenings of life.

Hence, people could think that they are big people, and they are big people on the objective world, but other people could perceive them as small ones since people perceive other people based on what they think and do on others due to selfish standards everyone has in life. In this case, such people could fall under wrong trap since their inside and outside reality could agree in one aspect, but they could be perceived by others in wrong or bad way due to the fact that they have done bad and wrong on such people. Such wrong and bad doings germinate as result of bad and wrong thinking they have towards such people. So, it is not surprising that such people do not pay and deliver any respect to such people since this is what they deserve in such people’s world.

In this regard, such people’s personality and individuality is partially in good shape and partially in bad shape since they show one face to one segment of people and another face to another segment of society, which they call tricky personality. While interacting with such people, care, tact and wisdom are important to consider. They are not attached to doing god since they do good to people whom they like and they do cruel things to those people which they do not like to see their face. Virtues and characters do not have any given race, group, ethnicity, color or whatever since such people are not consistent on what they think and do due to the fact they do discriminate while performing single act. In such case, such given discrimination will make them pay the price in its own good time.

While such scenario of life is entertained, what in most cases could vary in most people reality is what they think deep inside by their own and who they practically are in which there is space that exist between these two given claims of personalities and realities of life and most people confuse who they practically are with who they think they are in their deeper and inner world. In such given conflict and contradictions of self within one’s being, the cause of conflict and contradiction of many people’s reality exist while interacting and communicating with others is this given factor and ingredients of life.

Unless and otherwise people reflect as who think they are to the outward world, communicate and express their given claim with something feasible and tangible to the external world, it is not possible to tell who such people as per their give claims do and it is not possible to force others to perceive them in way their claim dictate while one does not communicate one‘s inner being claim to the outside world. Although, peoples misunderstandings and misinterpretations of other peoples thinking and act is one common given factor for such given interactions of life, if there is such claim that there are people who could think they are great but they are perceived by others as small, such given claim of greatness should be reflected and outwardly communicated by the claim they do towards such people’s lives.

In relation to that given person’s complaint of looking into life partner, the person could assume that by being rich, handsome and successful, one has considered himself as good, but other people could perceive that given person’s claim as bad when that given person interacts with such people. In connection of such aspect of life to oneself in here, this is one of the things that bothers least since it is not obligation to one’s life. One is not interested in women thing of sharing life since one is fine with such style of life one already is doing and one is also fine with one’s poverty of today since such poverty has its own real and decent beauty. One lives in such state of being out of passing hurdles by one’s own strength.

There was none who shared difficulties of one’s life in pasty since real people share problems or they do not stay away from oneself in times of one’s problematic condition. And there is no help that one need at this point since one has already adapted to such way of life and one is already comfortable to be in such life. There is no point and ground one seeks other people to come into one’s way since one has already paved the correct and right path of life which does not need any given company or any other people to dwell in one’s given life. One does not and is not willing to understand any other people who want to help or cooperate since one does not seek any help.

If there is a claim that goes like, we give him a test and he passed this test, they can play this game and sheet drama with their mothers and in their mother’s womb not with a person like oneself in here since such kinds of people must be evil and stupid and this is what it means by the beast who tricks and deceive other people and there is no other definition and meaning one could deliver to such people due to the fact that they enjoy out of the pain and suffering of other people misery and this cannot be human way of thinking, but evil drama, which deserve punishment under criminal law and act.

In this condition of one’s poverty, calmness and serenity are one’s friend; thinking and meditations are one’s neighbor; visions and dreams are one’s true reality; simplicity and humbleness are reflections of one’s personality. Life goes on and there is no way and time to look to back in stormy past since past is already gone and the future is something one should look forward, not with past people or past story, but with different mindset, new people and different agenda of life. Although one is grateful for those who think and do good thing on past, one looks with one’s own hope and vision to the future with different mindset and perspective since one is the author and owner of one’s life which one does not want to share to anyone except to oneself.

In connection with one’s given personality and individuality, what one thinks as who one is different from as who one practically is and how one is perceived by other people; one perceives other people based on how they perceive oneself like other people too. One does not reflect as who one is as one thinks for different reasons since there are certain thinking that cannot be expressed as they are due to one’s experience of life and there might not be enough words to state and one does not want to articulate one’s given thinking by relating with the existing ones but one waits or future time as one matures to communicate such given thinking as one gets more matured, until then, one prefer to keep silent until one finds suitable time to express such thinking in the future.

Arguments Vs Discussion

August 25, 2015

Discussion is an exchange of knowledge; an argument an exchange of ignorance, Robert Quillen. Is this statement true? Is this statement what most people could agree on? Is this statement tells factual reality of argument and discussion or it is just partial?

According to the American Heritage Dictionary there is some difference between arguing and discussion. An argument is defined as “A discussion of differing point of view;  A quarrel; a dispute  A course of reasoning aimed at demonstrating truth of falsehood; b. A persuasive reason” To discuss is defined as “To speak with others about; talk over; to examine (a subject) in speech or writing” An argument is a disagreement between two or more people, but it can also be a statement backed by evidence.

Argument comes from the 14th century French word of the same spelling, meaning, “statements and reasoning in support of a proposition.” An argument can be a fact used as evidence to show that something is true, like a study that shows exercise improves certain health conditions — an argument for being more active. Argument also means “a discussion between people who have contrary views.”

If you’re in an ongoing discussion with someone over, that means you talk to each other over a long period of time, about all the aspects or a matter or an issue. Discussion comes from the Latin for “examination by taking things apart,” and when you’re having a discussion with someone on a complicated topic, it’s like you’re taking it apart and trying to understand it. Usually in a discussion, people exchange ideas.

There are some personalities that can be labeled as argumentative and that shows in their behavior and relationships. Arguments can be avoided and a lot of heartache prevented by being a little careful. The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. An argument is one thing you will never win.

Many people ask about the difference between an ‘argument’ (opinion) essay and a ‘discussion’ essay. When you argue, you are trying to persuade the other person to agree with your point of view. You might even get angry! When you discuss, you consider different points of view, and nobody gets angry.

In fact there is also point of harmony one could find between discussion and argument since in both cases differing opinions could be shared and exchanged but what matter is the attitude such exchange of ideas take place since in both of them, the passion and the attitude both are displayed, in which, in arguments, there is winner and loser, but in discussion there is no such a thing unless such a thing is entertained in individuals’ one’s inner being in terms of satisfaction or dissatisfaction as result of one’ point of view is accepted or rejected by the group discussing; where as in argument it is crystal clear that people submit their views along with justifications and they are justified on how and what people put their arguments.

In any given field of study, when people invent or discover something, they have to argue since there are possibly other people who negate or reject their given claim. In this case, people should develop their own arguments in way that others should be convinced since they require to be accepted in way their given claim is justified. In this case, they argue over something since they have something to justify.

When people invent something, there are two options they should have in their life and undertaking. The first one is to keep it personal and to themselves. The second one is to share what they have to others and to the entire world at large. While keeping what they claim to their own and personal undertaking, there is no need to develop arguments and proofs in order to convince the rest of the world. But, when they want to share their claim to the rest of the world and want to receive recognition, they have to develop arguments and proofs as to the correctness of their given claim since this is one of the norm and trend in this world, which is indeed an appropriate one.

In political field, people justify their ideology and claim by arguments in which they make all kinds of arguments in order to convince other politicians and the public at large. Based on their give claim, they are justified and thus if their argument is something worthwhile, others accept their given claim and thus they are accepted as legitimate and they are declared as winners in whatever undertaking they are going to deliver.

In religious fields, religionist puts their arguments in order to deliver and obtain followers to their given respective domain. Thus, they put all kinds of arguments since their given claim should be proven out so that their claim could be justified as true and legitimate. Hence, they argue over different matters which they claim so that society could accept as truthful and trustworthy and people could live by their given claim since it is necessary to argue over such matters.

However, when arguments do become confrontational and it is done with sole intention of belittling others or attacking personality and identity of people, it is futile, nuisance and nonsense. It is just waste of time for nothing, in this case, it is wiser and praiseworthy to avoid it since it makes everyone to lose, energy, passion and interest in life. In this case, it is nicer to read a book, have coffee at café, or have glasses of beer at the grocer since in such private mood of one’s privacy, interesting and great ideas could be entertained in one’s reality in one’s own accent and style of life. They say loneliness is better than evil company since such kinds of confrontational arguments have no result and they do not bear any fruit.

When people discuss, they share ideas towards attaining one common goal. When people have different goals and aims and objective in life, they do not discuss, but they argue. They discus when they promote similar purpose and objectives and programs of life hence they should belong to similar groups or system of life. For example, two groups have claim that both think that in the future all the people of the world will come to their domain, in this case, they put arguments since all of them cannot come two camps as per their given claim. In this case, both groups present their given claims and they put arguments since they have differing views. When two groups do have similar or closer looks about the nature of heaven and hell, but they do have their own claims, in this case, they discuss their perspectives since one adds an idea on the other even if they are different. Hence, people share their own suggestions and recommendations based on their understandings and perception they have

When people discuss, they should share same common belief and purpose in life and they should be selective of people whom they discus over any matter since one does not discuss about anything with a person whom one does not like since point of interest is one factor and the person whom one discuss is also another given factor. Any discussion should add certain flavor and color to one’s life in which such discussion should be based on certain factor or elements in life. In fact there are mandatory discussions which people could make such as working places since it s about settling one’ bills.

Arguments and discussions are important and essential as far as they bear productive fruits and results in terms of thinking and perspectives. The point is what people discuss and argue over with, is the subject matter worthwhile to discuss or argue is the crux. In this case, the world of thinking and ideology are sustained by the power of arguments and discussion since both have been stimulant and instrumental towards making knowledge, thoughts and perspective in human life.

Realities of Life

In a world, where Reality is dual
One is clear and so visual
The other is hidden, cannot be known
Who can tell, I have lived a life?

In a world, faculties are corrupted and biased
Faith and denial are living in a combined wall
Who is there to tell, unless one is chosen from on High
The Realities of Life, which was never disclosed in before

As every thing depends upon practice and gifts
Talents and luck are always conditions to know of the Knowing
Life goes on, hitting the road with or without the tyre
One is fine, and the other is so rough

Just in case, one loses the Way, and one can guide
But in all the lost Path and misdirected, who can guide others
Unless the Almighty who knows all and the whole
That is the only chance all have on the Earth! !

Desert Water

One man said, I saw ice in a desert
Getting melted, breaking down to none
Putting things in a wrong time and place
It does not help and may ruin all

It is like building house on ice basement
When strong Sun comes, it removes all
Who wants to live in such a cold well
While there is safe place to reside
Who dull may choose to live in such a shell

As choice is free to every one on the earth
To choose good from bad is always better
To be loving, and respecting all is the only chance
Why we bite each other, as there is a way to live
To forgive others is to be forgiven by the rest.