January 31, 2015
Life is journey. A journey of any given individual starts from self in which such journey has a start and an end point on this plane of existence which are joined and connected by two great points which everyone in this plane of existence shares, and these are commonly known—birth and death. In such processes, what vary from one person to another is on the method and application of life which people intend to grow and it is in this growth thing people differ although all people share birth and death.
In this case, such growth is dependent upon many things and the most important aspect is on the way of life and thinking people employ in their daily routines. Consequently, people interact with other people based on such way of life they have in life and thus they make friends and enemies based on such standards they set in life. Based on such perceptions and understandings in life, people commit themselves in various undertakings of life. And they interact and communicate with others, and they hold different kinds of ceremonies of life.
Among-st such ceremonies people do, one of the most important things they do is the marriage ceremony they do with other people. However, most people get married with others before they get married with their own reality and selves and thus most people end up in divorce and they suffer due to such failures they make. And thus the divorce rate in this world is daily increasing. People should perform an official marriage one should commit with oneself so that the rest and other ways of life can flourish and prosper based on the marriage ceremony one has done with oneself.
Why do people get married with others before they get married with their one reality and selves in which such way of life do lead most people in disappointments since they have not checked themselves before they start checking on others. Thus, most people end up in checking others since they have suspicious life and thinking and way of life and they assume that other people whom they like to be with do cheat or trick on them due to the fact that they forget they have developed type of unconfident personality they have by their own.
Consequently, they forget to see their inside and their true reality since they spend much time on others peoples affairs and business, they mind other people way of life, and they get trapped with vicious circle of gossips and checking on others. And they forget their true reality in their bed room and in their underwear, but they focus on other people’s daily ins and outs. This put them in bad shape as they start coming back to their and by their own, where am I, what was happening on me and the like. This put them in vicious circle of stupidity. If they have checked themselves by their own and get married with their own selves, such things would not happen to them.
I find the following news quite interesting for many reasons.
Yasmin Eleby sent an invitation to friends and family asking them to come celebrate her 40th birthday in a “unique way.” Why was it unique? Yasmin Eleby had arranged a surprise marriage ceremony … in which she married herself. I’d been saying a few years that if I hadn’t gotten married by the time I was 40, I’d just have a wedding by myself,” Eleby told ABC News today. “I decided I didn’t want it to be a joke. I wanted to have a celebration of myself. My wedding was going to be about me making a commitment to love myself, to honor myself and to know my self-worth.
Many people get married with other people before they get married with their own selves in which they live with contradictory and inconsistent reality that they come about as result of the process and exposures of life they have passé thru and they come across in due course of time. Hence, they live in most cases dis-satisfactory way of life which could end up in disappointments and dissatisfaction thru the way of life they have already employed in their reality. They claim, it is my mistake and it is my failure.
Why do people should get married with their own selves? What does it mean by getting married with oneself? In order to reduce the amount of mistakes and failures they make in life, but augment profound understanding in life, as one big reason, people should get married with their own reality. These verities should be clarified before what they claim is true and practical. Getting married with oneself is in most cases related in here having reconciled personality and reality in which person’s physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual realities are integrated and combined in one’s daily routine so that sound personality one creates in one’ being is done so that such peace and stability in one’s being should not disturb the person’s neighbor.
In this given case, there is no such straight-line marginalized and drawn, but such serenity and reconciliation process is manifested and reflected not on the households, automobiles and other objects one posses, but rather in one’s thinking, character, deeds, ambitions and visions which are detected by what that given person talks, shares and does in one’s daily routines. These are fundamental and significant aspect of one’s reality in which such reflections and ways of life one employs are beneficiary to the person in solving all kinds of difficult and bad conditions of life, thru delivering peaceful solutions and having health way of life in one’s daily routines in daily interaction one makes with the surrounding environment.
While such process of life is going, one should have certain things to take into account when one gets married with oneself in which such marriage thing with oneself is tantamount to marriage and divorcing with oneself since what an individual in most case seeks in life are connected with desires. Such desires have two aspects. The first one is positive ones that add value to one’s life and one should get married with such desires and the other desires are negative ones which ruin one’s destiny and future in which one should get divorce with such kinds of desires too.
In this case, one should be able to identify the constructive and destructive desires that come as result of individual thinking and feeling. There is no point of blaming other people but it is up to the individual to control and sort out such desires by oneself and make one’s own decision in as to such desires in which family make up, social an community dynamics one belongs, education, religion, one’s morality and maturity and other exposures and experiences of life one acquires in one’s life time are helping tools.
When one makes marriage with oneself, this is continuous process and is very dynamic since one lives by trial and error and one learns from past failures and mistakes so that the days yet to come will be nicer and healthier. Mistakes and failures are good opportunities of learning process as successes and achievements are engines of happiness and establishing brighter futures too. Such marriage with oneself brings up dynamic and progressive reality in one’s being which cannot be destructed by any external and outside challenges and difficulties since one develops strength and maturity on how to resist such challenges in life.
Presumably, people should love, honor and know themselves so that the private and personal marriage with self could be celebrated properly and such life will be colored with achievements and successes people should have on hourly and daily basis, not even weeks, months and years. It is such sound personality that should be invented and created with oneself so that life will be a celebrating event and joyful phenomena. In this journey of personal marriage people perform with their own reality, people should enjoy such valley of life with calmness and serenity than chaos and confusion. Bon Voyage!!